Denver Jack

9 years ago today you were born and died.. Its been 3285 days since I held you in my arms my sweet boy..

"Godspeed, little man Sweet dreams, little man Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings Godspeed Sweet dreams

8 years since I held Denver in my arms.......

Its been 8 years since I held you in my arms my son! How I still miss you!

I wonder who you would look like and what type of trouble you would be getting in to today... Your 8th birthday..... What type of cake would you have wanted?

They say as the time goes on the pain will be less.... I feel the pain like I did the day you were born... Your Daddy and I in the hospital only days after getting married... Holding you in my arms for the first time.. Counting your fingers and toes.

Denver you came in to this world and left so soon..... To soon.... The tears I have cried for you... I so long for the time to hold you again.....

You're in a better place, I've heard a thousand times
And at least a thousand times I've rejoiced for you
But the reason why I'm broken, the reason why I cry
Is how long must I wait to be with you

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

Help me Lord cause I don't understand your ways
The reason why I wonder if I'll ever know
But, even if you showed me, the hurt would be the same
Cause I'm still here so far away from home


In Christ, there are no goodbye
And in Christ, there is no end
So I'll hold onto Jesus with all that I have
To see you again

Grave Robbery! UPDATED

Update


We have found out that it is kids......

Which really breaks my heart...

because are these little ones doing it because they dont have toys?
And some what eases the pain...


Or are they just taking them for the he$$ of it?????

There are broken toys that have been taken and just trashed in the area.

thanks everyone for the hugz and words of support I really needed it!!





Aaggggggggghhhh

I am so so so



dont even have the words................

someone has been stealing toys, gifts and monmentoes of my sons grave..

And not just off his but others in the childrens cemetery...

what can I do.... I am upset... do I take more out there?

each year I try to find something special to take out to his grave....


What do I do now

7 years since I held you in my arms

Your life was a blessing,
Your memory a treasure.
You are loved beyond words
And missed beyond measure.

My sweet first born son Denver was born and died on this day 7 years ago....
How my heart aches for him.

It ain't fair you died too young
Like a story that had just begun
But death tore the pages all away
God knows how I miss you

Would you see the world, Would you chase your dreams,
Settle down with a family,I wonder what would you name your babies

Somedays the sky's so blue
I feel like I can talk to you
And I know it might sound crazy

Just heard this sweet song

here are the lyrics to one of the sweetest songs I have heard... It makes me think so much about Denver....





Sunny days seem to hurt the most
Wear the pain like a heavy coat
I feel you everywhere I go
I see your smile, I see your face
I hear you laughing in the rain
Still can't believe you're gone

Chorus:

It ain't fair you died too young
Like a story that had just begun
The death tore the pages all away
God knows how I miss you
All the pain that I've been through
Just knowing no one could take your place
Sometimes I wonder who you'd be today

Would you see the world?
Would you chase your dreams?
Settle down with a family?
I wonder, what would you name your babies?
Some days the sky's so blue
I feel like I can talk to you
And I know it might sound crazy

Chorus

Today, Today, Today
Today, Today, Today

Sunny days seem to hurt the most
I wear the pain like a heavy coat
The only thing that gives me hope
Is I know I'll see you again someday

Someday, Someday

Kenny Chesney Who You'd Be Today


Who would you be today Denver............

This memorial is for our son, Denver Jack

Born 22nd August 2000.

Our precious little baby had a birth defect called Anencephaly (the major portion of his brain and the top part of his skull had failed to develop). Incompatible with life we were told.

They told us the only thing we could do was Induce our son. I was 18 weeks pregnant when I went in on the Monday for the AFP test.

I was also scheduled to have an U/S the Wednesday to check on how many weeks I was along. The Doctor that thought maybeit was a wrong date. I went in and we had a great U/S the baby was head down and they said they couldn’t get a good picture of the head but everything seemed to be really good. We were told that I was 22 weeks and we went home with our first baby picture. We were on such a high! Showing off our little angel to everyone!

Life was great! We were getting married in 3 days and we had found out that our baby was healthy! The next morning as we were getting ready to get some wedding things done the phone rang and the U/S lady was on the phone. She asked if we could come back in that day for another U/S as the Doctor wanted to get a better picture of our baby’s head. We went in and had the second U/S. Nobody talked they took about 15 mins and then said they had to talk to the Doctor. They left the room and left Allan and I wondering! Deep down I knew that there was something that was really wrong and would mean our baby wasn’t going to live. They came back to the room with 4 other people and right at that moment I had a feeling come over me of to just get out of that room! I asked to be excused to go to the toilet and just started to bawl! After about a minute, (but at the time seemed like hours) I went back into the room where they all looked at me and told me what was wrong. I cried all I could do was hold on to Allan and cry. Allan was crying. My Mum was also crying. All we could do was cry.

They were telling us what was wrong and what we had to do. I really can’t remember what they were saying. It was like an outer body experience. Just seeing Allan and I crying and everybody trying to explain what had happened. They told us to wait for the Doctor to come and talk to us. We waited and when he came he was so cold about it almost like "Well this happens and get over it! " He told someone that he would write me a prescription for Valium! I was very upset and that was the last thing I wanted!

We left the hospital. Knowing that they couldn’t do anything that day. We went to Allan’s parent’s place and told them what had happened and rung people that needed to know what was wrong. I think that people thought maybe we shouldn’t go ahead with the wedding. It was a hard decision. But when we found out that I was pregnant Allan and I decided to bring our wedding forward. So our baby would be born in wedlock. We said that if something were to happen we would still be married early.

Denver must have really wanted us to be married then. We talked and decided that the wedding would go a head! From there as hard as it was I know that we made the right decision!The next day the Friday before the wedding we were kept busy setting the hall for the reception it kept my mind busy. But boy did I have my moments! I would hate to think how I would have been if I didn’t have anything to do! That afternoon we went back to the hospital to discuss what we had to do. The midwife was really nice and told us what to expect. Also we were told that we could hold our son, name him, bury him and even have a birth certificate. We said that we would come in Monday 21st to be induced.

On the Monday morning we went in, and I would have to say that Allan and I were as scared! We had wondered if we were doing the right thing? Could they be wrong? The doctor came in and it was a different doctor! (Thank goodness) He was wonderful! We told him of our fears. He asked if we had seen the U/S showing where the brain hadn’t grown. We hadn’t b so he got them and showed us what had happened and showed us there wasn’t a mistake and there was really nothing that could be done to help our son.

We went back into the room and he started the first treatment. I had 4 treatments that day with only a few contractions that afternoon then nothing happened. They said that they would start the treatments again the next morning. Allan stayed the night with me in hospital! (I mean we were on our honeymoon) We hopped into the little bed together and tried to sleep! The next morning Tuesday the 22nd of August they started the treatments again, they said that they only had 3 left and after that if they didn’t work I might have to go home and wait a few days. (We weren’t very keen on that idea and hoped that Denver would come that day)

The day went on and nothing much happened until around 3pm when I started to have contractions again like the day before. But they didn’t stop this time they got stronger and more frequent. By around 7pm I was having them every 5-6 mins and boy was I starting to feel the pain! I asked for some medication, they gave me a pethidine drip. I had my first dose of that, and WOAH I was almost knocked out! They turned that down and I was on a machine that I pressed when I need more relief from the pain.

Around 8:30pm with my contractions 2-3 mins apart I felt the strongest pain and all this pressure I thought OH MY GOSH the baby is coming! I told Allan and my Mum and they said to let them have a look they said this purple thing was coming out! (It was my waters braking! Mind you none of us thought about that! I think we all had forgotten about my waters braking. And I hadn’t gotten to that part in the baby book yet?) So with Allan and Mum running around the end of the bed calling for the nurse, me feeling like I was going to explode! The nurse came in the waters broke and made a mess! Looking back at that I have to laugh it was like something out of a comedy film! They asked me if I would like to sit up as that may help the baby come down. So I sat up and about 15mins later on a contraction Denver was born. He was so tiny weighing only 100 grams he was 19cms long. But he was perfect! I was worried that he would look weird or something. You didn’t even see where his brain hadn’t formed. All I could see was his 10 toes, 10 fingers and long long legs! Tiny little finger nails! Allan said that he had my nose and lip. And as all proud fathers do say their son takes after them! We held him, talked to him not wanting that moment to end. It was a feeling that I could never explain. Happy and sad all in one.