Thursday, January 20, 2011

Flower has started a new thing at access

since she was born she has been unable, cant or wont sleep at access (it is done in the bios house) Every-time they have tried she screams blue murder and gets so upset....

So they are going to push her access times into her NAP time so they can get her to have a day nap there. I have had to write detailed notes of how to settle her and how I put her down for a sleep.

I am hoping she doesn't come home so upset and wound up that she doesn't sleep that night...

I had to explain that when I packed her food for the day there was not as much in there because she will be there for lunch only... (Bios complain I don't send enough food)

LETS hope Flower sleeps... for her sake...

When Flower came home out of sorts....

She didn't settle well at all lots of screaming and crying...

I heard that bmum took her out of the cot many times before she fell asleep...

then to top it off the contact time ran out so they has to wake her up to bring her home????????????????????????

I am so MAD because even before she left and the day before I SAID that if she isn't awake then let her sleep!?!!?! How hard is it????? Its not rocket science?!?!!?! Flower was ready for bed about 30mins earlier than normal but settled in to bed ok....

That night she was aking with night terrors so many times it was a very long night.

THEN CAME ACCESS number 2
And it was horrid she came home a mess Flower didn't sleep at at all today and screamed and cried would not eat her lunch or drink her bottle.

to add to this putting her down to bed last night she is all a mess and so very unsettled.. I feel so bad for her it hurts. And she is hurting and I do not want this to turn into a huge change in bed time for her because she is getting all upset?
is there anything I can do this really doesn't seem fair on her at all???

Before they started all this she went to bed at nap time and bed time with no hassle at ALL

It has also run into the next sleep and nap time with the same upset little bub...

2 comments:

Suz said...

I've wondered about you as I watch the news. Are the floods anywhere near you? I miss hearing from you :O)

Kate said...

Poor little Flower! She hasn't been able to sleep at access because she's having to be hyper-vigilant in a stressful situation. And now they're forcing her to.
What can you do? Ring the dept every day and tell them the latest updates of the negative effects of nap access on Flower! Sadly, you can't make the trauma go away or 'fix her'. Just love her and give her the love and security she always has with you. It won't remove the problem, but it will make things easier for her.
{{{hugs}}}